By Michael BenjaminWhenever a group of men congregate for a street corner lime or a rum shop gaff, women always bear the brunt of their jokes. This group was no different and Joe had taken center stage, his voice rising 10 decibels. He was reciting an earlier fracas with his wife one night prior. “Who me?” he pronounced pushing his chest in the air, “I had she pon she knee begging last night!”His friends were thoroughly impressed until one of them requested additional details. “So what was she saying?”“She telling me dat I mus come from under de bed,” was Joe’s sheepish response.While this joke has been making its rounds for quite some time, and while it is true that some women do take the rolling pin to their men, the statistics reveal that even though members of the ‘fairer sex’ are the ones at the wrong end of domestic brutality, they somehow manage to leave the ring in the better shape than their mate. Almost on a daily basis, newspaper reports relate the sordid ‘battle of the sexes’ episodes that oft times leave the woman dead or permanently maimed.Many read these reports, sigh in exasperation and return to their daily chores because oft times they feel far removed from the situation. Then one day the proximity gap closes considerably and the dead woman happens to be your neighbour or close friend. It is now time to perk up.Incidences such as these suddenly take on immense proportions because the dead individual is someone whom you know, have touched, loved and generally fraternised with. You now question your immortality, unobtrusively paying keener attention to the behavioural patterns of the man you have vowed to love until death.This is the irony; the warring couples had earlier, sometimes a mere few months, vowed to live in sickness and health, but most importantly, “Till death do us part.” Obviously the men are applying a literal interpretation to this section of their vows, and whenever their spouses, after a prolonged period of abuse and embarrassment decide to walk out of their lives, they, the men that is, decide to end the relationship in accordance with their marriage vows.The psychologists, sociologists and other relevant professionals may give a more profound prognosis of the problem but sometimes it is the street corner conversations that provide the most practical solution to the elimination of these scourges.Almost every man has been socialized to believe that women are the weaker sex and a woman’s power is in her tongue. So,
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